The tech world shook on Wednesday. Steve Jobs, co-founder and CEO of Apple, father of the iMac, iPod and iPhone, announced that he is stepping down.
The world shook too in the LGBT community. The person taking over the reins of Apple is Tim Cook who was ranked No.1 on Out magazine's list of America's most influential gays and lesbians this year although Cook himself has never confirmed nor denied his sexuality.
A friend’s friend asked, “Why make his sexuality such a big deal?” Another said, “It shouldn’t matter.”
In an ideal world, it shouldn’t matter. It shouldn’t be a big deal if Apple’s next CEO is a woman, a minority or a religious person Buddhist, Muslim, Christian or Hindu. Why make a big deal about Tim Cook being gay? None made a big deal of Steve Jobs being straight!
In the real world, a woman or a black person need not face that choice – the fact that they are female or a minority race is clear as day. Not so for a gay person. In the real world, most gay people keep their sexuality private.
I remembered growing up gay and searching desperately for a role model. Here was my journey:
From my childhood till teenage years, my only gay ‘role models’ were perverts and pedophiles prowling in the toilets. They were hunted, arrested and paraded in the national newspapers and tabloids. I remembered my mother saying, “Those sick bastards!” So I concluded I might be sick too.
When I discovered Yukio Mishima, a Japanese gay writer, I poured through his books, thirsting for some clues to guide me. Unfortunately, he was a strange fellow indeed. While I was thrilled that he declared his love for the same sex bravely, I was less happy about his morbid passion that gay love must end in suicide. Since he was the only Asian gay writer I knew then, I almost bought into that fatalism – there was to be no happy ending for gay relationships.
In a better world, you might find it funny to know my next favourite role model, an unrepentant, cheeky playwright called Joe Orton, had his skull bashed in with a hammer by his deranged boyfriend, Kenneth Helliwell. After killing Orton, Helliwell killed himself with an overdose of pills.
AIDS unearthed a slew of celebrities – Rock Hudson, Brad Davis, and Freddy Mercury to name a few – and in the same breath, declared them dead or dying.
I soldiered along, and in the process found many LGBT writers and artists in my native land of Singapore. The arrival of Elton John, Ian McKellen, Ellen DeGeneres and Adam Lambert lifted my spirits, but they, along with countless gay fashion designers and celebrity hairdressers, still did not fit my definition of a role model.
I may be an artist, but a part of me is decidedly a science geek.
What I need, is a modern-day Leonardo DaVinci, or a contemporary Alan Turing: Someone who is gay but cannot be pigeon-holed into a strictly artistic environment. So you can imagine my excitement when news of Cook’s sexuality broke!
And my disappointment when later articles clarified that he never came out publicly. Waiting for my role model feels like grasping at mirages in a desert.
Tim Cook has been an integral part of Apple where he has worked for the last 13 years. How big an influence or inspiration he has been, or will be, to such an iconic corporation remains to be seen. It would be great if he comes out, but what if he doesn’t? Afterall, filling in Jobs’ enormous shoes is already a monumental task. He should decide for himself if coming out will be to Apple’s advantage.
We may never get his own confirmation.
Until then, he cannot be a role model for me or my community. But here’s another alternative for us: we can wait for that elusive gay role model to show us the way, or we can be that role model.
I won’t be holding my breath for Cook or any other gay men or women to show me the way. I won’t sit and wait for someone to share his or her formula for success. There is no road map that will point the way towards my dreams.
“Fine!” I tell myself, “All the sweeter when I get there first.”
And with that, I put my best foot forward.
Otto Fong is a comic artist who'd created Sir Fong's Adventures In Science, a series of educational children’s books, and an openly gay man since 2007.